Napa Defensiveness Questionnaire – 2020 Napa Forum Retreat - Defensiveness Survey In preparation for our time together, please complete the questionnaire below. Please submit all entries by February 24th, 2020. Your individual responses and identity will be held in confidence by Paul Warner. . * Indicates REQUIRED field. Your Name:*Surfacing “Below the Line Behaviors”A key facet of effective leadership is being able to shift out of defensive behaviors that inhibit collaboration and execution when they arise. The first step in this learning process is to identify these counterproductive tendencies. The purpose of this part of the survey is to do just that. My intention is not to point out who is good/bad or skilled/not skilled. We are all human and all exhibit these type of behaviors at some point. In the spirit of learning and growth, please complete the following as honestly and authentically as possible:I find excuses or justification for mistakes.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI look for someone or something to blame.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI avoid taking on difficult tasks.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI resign to the will of others: “Tell me what you want me to do.”*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysFeeling under-appreciated.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI complain about insufficient resources or a lack of support.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI get defensive when offered feedback.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI focus on “what’s wrong” instead of offering possible solutions.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI am more likely to point out flaws than abilities in others.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI come across as guarded or defensive.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI express disapproval by either withdrawing (passive behavior) or attacking (aggressive behavior).*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI refuse to change after developing a position or viewpoint.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI manipulate or outwit others for personal gain.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI derail discussions with judgments or negativity.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI shift conversations into debates.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI give up on the entire situation: “This is hopeless” or “Why bother?”*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI criticize others’ actions or decisions.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI give directives to others without the authority to do so.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI set unreasonable expectations.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI place productivity, efficiency, and action above relationships.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI work self and others to the point of burnout.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI express disagreement with anger or annoyance.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI ignore or challenge requests or assignments from authority figures.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI micromanage.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI am overly accommodating toward others.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI sacrifice personal well-being to gain others’ approval.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI avoid the direct conversations required to address conflict.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI struggle to say “no” to others’ requests.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI miss deadlines or under-deliver because there is so much to do.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI feel responsible for diffusing tension and keeping everyone happy.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI cover up for others, enabling their “bad” behavior.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI hesitate to impose consequences on broken agreements.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysI struggle to stay in my highest and best use at work.*Almost NeverSometimesOftenAlmost AlwaysReflecting on the behaviors above, what would you most want to work on as you continue to develop as a leader?*Confidential Email Address:*A copy of your submitted survey will be sent to you at the email address you provide in the following field. Please print out and bring to the offsite. This iframe contains the logic required to handle Ajax powered Gravity Forms.
